Bishop reflects on loss of Paterson priest to suicide
The Diocese of Paterson is mourning the tragic death of a beloved priest whose quiet struggle with mental illness ended in heartbreak.
According to CNA, Father Rafael Ciro, a Colombian-born Catholic priest and pastor of St. Stephen’s Church in Paterson, New Jersey, died by suicide, prompting an outpouring of condolences and calls for greater awareness of mental health struggles among clergy.
Born in Colombia in 1979, Rafael Ciro devoted his life to the Catholic Church, entering the priesthood on May 25, 2013. His ministry in New Jersey led him through several parishes where he served with dedication and pastoral care.
Decade of Service Across New Jersey Parishes
Father Ciro began his ministry at the Cathedral of St. John the Baptist in Paterson and later served in Passaic at both St. Mary’s and St. Nicholas parishes. He also worked with parishioners in Dover at Sacred Heart and Holy Rosary parishes. In recent years, he took on the role of pastor at St. Stephen’s Church, where he became a supportive presence for many in the local community.
News of his death by suicide shook the diocese and local faithful alike. His passing brought attention to the often-unseen mental health challenges clergy members face, even as they minister to others.
The Diocese of Paterson, under the guidance of Bishop Kevin Sweeney, responded with prayers and support for Father Ciro’s loved ones. The bishop acknowledged the emotional toll of the tragedy and emphasized the importance of compassion and understanding.
Bishop Sweeney Addresses Mental Health and Faith
Bishop Sweeney praised Father Ciro for his perseverance amid private challenges, stating, “A priest is a human being, and none of us is immune to illness.” He reminded the faithful that unseen illnesses can be as life-threatening as physical ones and deserve the same attention and care.
The bishop shared that Father Ciro had fought his internal battles with the help of counselors, friends, and fellow clergy. “Father Rafael fought the good fight,” he said, noting the courage it took to continue serving despite personal hardship.
Maria Rodríguez, a parishioner who spoke to Univision, recalled Father Ciro’s warmth and kindness. “He was very well-loved; he had many people who loved him,” she said. “We miss him.”
Public Farewell and Private Family Burial
Father Ciro’s wake was held on Tuesday, September 2, at St. Stephen’s Parish. On the following day, a funeral Mass was celebrated at the Cathedral of St. John the Baptist in Paterson, where he had once served. The cathedral, located at 387-389 Grand Street, welcomed hundreds who came to pay their respects.
A separate, private burial took place in Colombia for Father Ciro’s family, including his mother, Doña Elena Guarín, and his siblings. The Diocese invited prayers for them, as well as for the many friends and colleagues left grieving in the aftermath.
Condolences for the family and the clergy community were welcomed through the Clergy Personnel Office at St. Paul Inside the Walls in Madison, New Jersey.
Church Teaches Compassion and Prayer After Suicide
Addressing the difficult subject of suicide, Bishop Sweeney referenced the Catechism of the Catholic Church, which teaches that psychological suffering can reduce a person’s responsibility. He quoted Catechism paragraph No. 2283, which affirms that salvation is still possible and that the Church prays for those who die by suicide.
“We should not despair of the eternal salvation of persons who have taken their own lives,” he said. “By ways known to him alone, God can provide the opportunity for salutary repentance.”
He added, “With this certainty, we entrust Father Raphael to the infinite mercy of God, rich in compassion.”
A Call for Awareness and Support
The Church emphasized the need for compassion, encouraging those in crisis to seek professional help and to reach out to trusted spiritual leaders for support. A reminder of resources like the 988 crisis line in the United States was also shared by the diocese.
“The long shadow of this moment does not diminish the bright light of his spirit,” said Bishop Sweeney. While grieving the loss, he urged the faithful to hold onto hope. “Our faith in eternal life through Christ is our light in darkness.”
In the midst of sorrow, the bishop offered a final prayer for Father Ciro: “Grant him, Lord, eternal rest, and let perpetual light shine upon him. May he rest in peace.”





